Taking a break dating
It felt like the start of something serious, until she sensed Joe pulling away. “My ego was a little bruised, but I always tried to sense whether there was still something there,” Jaime says.
How do you know when rekindling a relationship is the right choice and when it’s better to cut ties for good?
“I think it can be really healthy to separate, have some life experiences, date other people, go to grad school,” she says.
“When you are ready, you’ll probably think of that person first.”Therapists can list many benefits of going on a break: It’s a chance to rediscover yourself, build appreciation for your significant other (the whole “you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone” thing), and ultimately strengthen your relationship. Chances are the boundaries of what you’re comfortable with will be different from your partner, so it’s important to hash these things out from the beginning, says Matt Lundquist, a clinical social worker in New York.
“We all have to find ways to make peace with the fact that we’re not the only partner our partners have had,” says Jack Worthy, a couples counselor in New York.
Spending time apart is a great opportunity for self-discovery.